Something happened that shouldn’t have happened. Perhaps it happened when you were young, perhaps very young. You grew up, you had to do that, but now as an adult, there is a shadow, a ghost that haunts. You notice yourself, at times, acting out of sorts. Perhaps how you are in relationships is not how you want to be. Perhaps you notice you react more strongly to some situations than those around you. Perhaps it feels that, sometimes, you are not acting like yourself at all.
Something awful happened and perhaps you didn’t get over it. Perhaps you went around it instead. You cut yourself from what happened, locked it away and threw away the key. You had to abandon a part of yourself. Or at least, you tried to. At the time, you had no choice. You did what you had to do with the tools you had. There’s no judgement in that. Or shame. But now it, whatever it is, has found a way out. The monster under the bed is making a noise.
But that monster needs to be heard. It’s a part of who you were then and it’s everything that happened, then. You’ve hidden that person away and our job is to find them again, get to know who they are.
This will be scary. No doubt, you might be reading this and start to panic. You might notice yourself dismissing me or getting defensive.
That’s ok. It’s all part of it. Breathe.
I cannot undo what happened. I wish I could. But what I can do is stay with you. Looking at what happened, really looking at it, will be hard. It might be the hardest thing you’ve ever done. Or at least, that you have chosen to do. But you won’t be alone. We will go at your pace and only step forward when you are ready.
A part of you, a small, tender part of you, has been hidden for so long. I want to get to know them. Please, give me a call and see how it feels to say hi.
The practical bits
The room is at 231 Shoreditch High Street, London E1 6PJ — in Shoreditch, in the London Borough of Hackney. Shoreditch High Street station is a two-minute walk and Liverpool Street about ten. We can also meet online.
Sessions are £80 for 50 minutes, usually weekly. The first step is a free 15‑minute call — no obligation, just a chance to get a sense of each other.
What you share in sessions stays between us. Like all therapists, I have some obligations which I spell out in my privacy policy.
I don’t think of trauma as an event. I think of it as the wound that results from that event. If something happened, and it feels like you’re holding onto it, then that is traumatic. And that voice that questions whether you’re worth it, or whether you’re overreacting, or being dramatic, let’s work with that too. That voice is part of you. Let’s say hi.
Do I have to talk about what happened?
In therapy you never need to talk about anything you don’t want to talk about. We move at your pace, only when you feel ready. Some people need many sessions before they feel safe in this space to open up. That’s fine with me. The most important thing for me is that you always feel safe in my therapy room, because you won’t always feel comfortable.
What kind of therapist should I see for trauma — do you do EMDR?
I am a relational, integrative therapist and I don’t offer EMDR. EMDR is a structured, protocol-based treatment. What I offer instead is a space where you can learn to feel safe again, whole. Relational therapy asks us to explore how you can feel safe in a room, being vulnerable with someone. What would you need in order for that to happen? What would that require of you and of me? These are big questions. They can take you somewhere you never imagined.
I am integrative because there are infinite possibilities of how we can do that. I don’t offer one tool and expect it to work for you. Together we can go wherever you need to, however you need to.
How much does trauma therapy cost?
Trauma therapy is £80 for a 50-minute session. I also offer a free 15‑minute call so that you can get a sense of me, no obligation.
How long does trauma therapy take?
There’s no set timeframe for trauma therapy. How long it takes depends on so many variables, but let me try to give you some very rough estimates. In my experience, it might take a few months before you begin to feel safe with me. You might notice in this time that you start to talk about it but can’t quite stay with it. Or perhaps I ask a question that feels too much to answer. That’s all good. It’s part of the work. After this time, hopefully, we’ll begin to go deeper. You might be able to stay with your experience more and make connections, and ask questions that no longer feel over-exposing.
And at some stage, you might begin to feel that we have gone as far as we can go. And that’s ok, that is also part of it. Together, we can think about how we want to end.
Ready to start?
Book a free 15‑minute call. No obligation — just a chance to get a sense of each other.
