Therapist in Shoreditch, Hackney

You show up for everyone. Except yourself.

You're a caring person. You struggle to see people upset. You say yes when you want to say no. You pay your way, and other people’s. You take on more than you can bear. You never get angry.

And perhaps now, you’re struggling.

If this sounds familiar, give me a call.

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Andrew Tobert

I work with people who can put others first, but never themselves. Over time, the need to take care of themselves feels self-centred, selfish, or perhaps even taboo. We work on being seen, on taking up space.

I want you to believe that you matter.

Here’s what you might be struggling with

Stress & Burnout
Your boss asks you to do more and you struggle to say no. Or perhaps there’s been an organisational mistake and you find yourself taking sole responsibility. Saying no is hard. Pushing back feels unproductive or unhelpful. You take everything on and now your back is breaking.
Relationships
You find yourself taking care of everyone, except yourself. You can’t bear to see your partner being sad or angry, but when you are, perhaps it’s not met with kindness.
Addictions
You’re doing something and you can’t stop, even though you want to. Perhaps you can hold it together when you’re at work, or with your kids. For other people, you can resist, but not for yourself.
LGBT+ people
Growing up, you might have thought something was wrong. You might have felt alone, like there was no one like you. You learned to hide. Even from yourself.

If any of this sounds like you, let’s chat. We can have a free 15‑minute conversation and begin taking steps towards something lighter.

What does therapy look like?

We’ll see each other every week, sometimes more, for 50 minutes.

The beginning

After our initial call, we’ll schedule a time for our weekly sessions.

The sessions

We’ll talk about whatever you need to. It might be something that’s happened last week, or years ago. Whatever is on your mind, there is space for that.

Where we meet

Usually we’ll meet in my room in Shoreditch. Sometimes, we might meet online.

Confidentiality

Whatever you want to talk about stays between us. This is your space and your time. You don’t need to worry about anyone else.