Gay-Friendly Therapy in London

For many gay men and queer people, therapy can bring both curiosity and apprehension. You might want to explore questions of identity, intimacy or belonging, but also wonder if a therapist will truly understand your experience. Finding a therapist who offers warmth, respect and genuine understanding can make all the difference.

My gay-friendly therapy service in London provides a confidential, affirming space to explore whatever feels important to you without assumption or judgment. You do not have to explain or justify who you are. The work begins wherever you are, and unfolds at a pace that feels right for you.

What Is Gay-Friendly Therapy?

Gay-friendly therapy is not a specific technique, but a commitment to offering a space that is inclusive and attuned to the lived experiences of gay and queer people. It recognises that sexuality, identity and community can shape our emotional lives in powerful and sometimes complicated ways.

As a gay-friendly therapist in London, I offer an integrative approach that draws on psychodynamic, humanistic and mindfulness-based perspectives. Together, we can explore whatever brings you here whether that is anxiety, relationship patterns, family tension, questions of self-acceptance, or the effects of discrimination and shame.

Therapy can be a space to reflect on how your history has shaped the way you relate to yourself and others, and to consider what might begin to shift through understanding and care.

Signs You Might Benefit from Therapy

You might be considering gay-friendly therapy in London if you are looking for a space where your experiences as a gay or queer person are met with openness and respect. Some people come to therapy for support with specific challenges, while others come simply to explore who they are.

You may notice that you:

• Feel anxious, low, or self-critical

• Find intimacy or relationships difficult to sustain

• Experience loneliness or disconnection from community

• Carry shame or uncertainty around your sexuality or past experiences

• Want to explore identity, belonging or purpose

• Have faced prejudice, rejection or loss and wish to process it

Whatever brings you here, therapy can provide time and space to reflect and make sense of what you have carried and what you might want for yourself moving forward.

How Gay-Friendly Therapy in London Works

Therapy begins with an introductory session where you can talk about what has led you here and what you hope to explore. Sessions then take place weekly, either in person in Hackney, East London, or online via secure video call.

Our work may involve understanding patterns in relationships, exploring the impact of early experiences, or noticing how internalised messages about sexuality affect your sense of self. It may also include grounding or mindfulness-based techniques to help you find steadiness when anxiety or self-criticism arise.

There is no fixed outcome. Many people experience therapy as a gradual process of becoming more curious, compassionate and connected to themselves. The work unfolds naturally, shaped by your pace and what feels safe to explore.

My Expertise and Approach

I trained at the Minster Centre, one of the UK’s leading psychotherapy training. My approach as a gay-friendly therapist in London is integrative, bringing together different therapeutic traditions to meet each person’s needs with sensitivity and care.

I have worked with many gay and queer clients exploring identity, relationships, trauma, loss, and the search for belonging. My role is to offer a space that feels grounded, inclusive and reflective. I aim to meet each person where they are, without assumption, and to help them explore their experience with honesty and kindness.

Therapy is not about fixing or changing who you are, but about creating the conditions where understanding and growth can emerge in their own time.

The Benefits of Gay-Friendly Therapy

Many people experience gay-friendly therapy in London as a process of softening, a chance to let go of old defences, to hear their own voice more clearly, and to reconnect with confidence and vitality.

Over time, you may find:

• Greater self-acceptance and ease in your identity

• Deeper understanding of relationship patterns

• The ability to meet shame or anxiety with compassion

• More satisfying connections with others

• A clearer sense of direction and purpose

Change can take many forms and may happen slowly or unexpectedly. What matters most is that therapy offers a space of safety and reflection where new possibilities can take shape.

Why Contact Me?

✓ Trained at the Minster Centre, one of the UK’s leading psychotherapy institutions

✓ Experienced in supporting people with anxiety, depression, grief, stress and burnout

✓ Over two years working in a bereavement service, alongside specialist work

✓ An integrative therapist, drawing from different traditions to tailor therapy to each person

✓ A background in working with activists, changemakers, leaders and ex-boarders

✓ Committed to creating a safe, empathic and collaborative therapeutic space

My pronouns are he/him

Start Your Therapy Journey Today

If you'd like an introductory session, please email me or message me using the details below or the contact form.

Phone

+44 7356 082880

Email

andrew.tobert@gmail.com

Location

231 Shoreditch High Street, E1 6PJ or Online

FAQs About Gay-Friendly Therapy in London

What happens in therapy?

In sessions, you will have time to talk about whatever feels important to you. We may explore emotions, relationships, past experiences or questions of identity. My role is to listen carefully and help you reflect on what emerges, at a pace that feels right.

Is therapy only for people struggling with their sexuality?

Not at all. Gay-friendly therapy is for anyone who wants to explore their life and relationships in a space where their sexuality is understood and respected. Some clients come with specific concerns while others come simply to reflect on their experience more deeply.

Is therapy confidential?

Yes. Everything we discuss in sessions is confidential, creating a space where you can speak freely and openly.

Do you offer online sessions?

Yes. Alongside in-person work in Hackney, East London, I offer online therapy via secure video call. This can be particularly helpful if you prefer the privacy and comfort of your own space.

How long does therapy take?

There is no set timeframe. Some people find a few months helpful for specific issues while others continue longer term to explore deeper patterns and self-understanding. We will review progress together as the work develops.

How do I get started?

You are welcome to arrange an introductory session. It is a chance to meet, ask questions, and get a sense of whether working together feels right. There is no obligation to continue, simply an invitation to begin.